浅谈说话的艺术：沉默是金.

2017-08-14 作者： 256阅读

　　保持沉默和你的高谈阔论一样有用，有时候沉默就像拥抱，比说话更让人觉得舒服，“失去的会让你觉得很遗憾”。当你不确定自己想说什么或是该说什么的时候，沉默也是不错的选择，但需要表达自己观点的时候，就要讲究一些说话的艺术，掌握一些鱼人沟通的说话技巧，沉默不等于没有掌握说话的技巧，所以判断形势恰当选择才能帮助你在人际交往中更加自信。

　　After I Read This, I Totally Know When I Should Stay Silent Or Speak

　　Staying silent can be just as powerful as the words you mean to say, like when the act of hugging will be more comforting than saying, “Sorry for your loss.”

　　保持沉默和你的高谈阔论一样有用，有时候沉默就像拥抱，比说话更让人觉得舒服，“失去的会让你觉得很遗憾。”

　　Another time when silence is golden is when you are unsure of what to say. If you are confused about your own feelings concerning a matter, it’s best to stay quiet until you are more certain because more harm can be done by revealing false or exaggerated feelings.

　　当你在不确定要说什么的时候，保持沉默也是不错的选择。在某件事情上要是你都不清楚自己的想法，除非到了你更能确定自己的时候，否则保持沉默是你最好的选择，因为没弄清楚自己的想法，夸大自己的情绪都会引起更多的不利情况。

　　Choose silence instead of blurting out ‘in-the-moment’ feelings that are hurtful and not really how you feel in the grand scheme of things. When you feel the urge to say an unkind thing, take a few breaths and think of the possible consequences of your words.

　　在某件事上与其将那“一时”的情绪宣泄出来对他人造成伤害，还不如不说。要是那件事到了非说不可的地步，请先深呼吸一下，想想话说出去后的结果。

　　Another time when it’s best to stay silent is when someone is sharing a meaningful story. Let the friend or person feel ‘heard’ by your silent nodding and sincere eye contact.

　　保持沉默的另一种情况是当某人在跟你分享一个很有意义的故事的时候。你安静的点头，真诚地与他眼神相交是会让他觉得你是用心在聆听他的故事。

　　Silence can be your best friend during negotiations. Say your piece, then close your mouth, and let the other person come to their own conclusions. Your silence shows that one, you are confident in what you just said, and two, you respect the other person enough to hear what they have to say.

　　谈判时保持沉默是你最好的朋友。几句话说完后保持沉默，让别人想想他的决定。首先，你的沉默体现出你对自己所提内容的自信，再者，当他人在说话时认真倾听也充分的表现出你对他人的足够尊重。

　　Sometimes silence is the best and most timely solution because the other person is not in a position to hear what you have to say. For example, when a friend needs for you to listen to her problems, but she is unable to accept your advice at that moment.

　　有时候保持沉默是可以的。因为在大部分时间里一些人都没有在你想说的时候认真倾听。比如，有个朋友需要你听他诉说，并且在那时他又没有办法接受你的建议时，那就保持沉默吧。

　　Practice being silent at work when you don’t have anything meaningful to contribute. Unless you can elevate the conversation by pointing out something interesting, missing, or benicial, it’s best to just observe and learn.

　　在工作中，要是你没有任何有建设性的贡献时，试着保持沉默吧。除非你能指出一些有趣的地方、一些被遗漏的点、或者是特别有利益的事来促进谈话内容，不然只是学习和观察是你最好的决定。

　　Finally, silence is golden when you don’t want to engage in a fool’s argument. As some squabbles will never be resolved, one must agree to disagree.

　　最后，要是你不想参与一件非常愚昧的话题讨论时，保持沉默是最可行的。就像为了一些小事争吵永远不会有结果一样，意见总是不能统一。

　　When to speak up loud and clear:

　　这些情况时，一定要大声说出来：

　　There will be times in your life where you will need the power of your voice. The voice within you that wants and needs to be respected and appreciated.

　　生活中，有些情况下需要你大声的说出来。你需要被尊重，需要别人正视你时，一定要说出来。

　　Use your voice and speak up when your feelings are being trampled on. Many things are out of our control, but it is within our power to control the words and feelings that we convey to others.

　　要是你的情感被践踏了，一定要用你的声音大声地宣泄自己。虽然许多事情的发展都不可控，但是我们可以将我们内心的感受用言语传达给他人。

　　Articulate your feelings clearly and let people know that you value your well-being.

　　清晰流利的表达自己的情绪，让人知道你是如何看待你自己的幸福。

　　Speak up for others who have no voice or are unable to speak for themselves for one reason or another. Your voice may be the only thing that saves and protects them from harm.

　　替那些因为某种原因而不能好好的表达他们自己的人说话。你的声音可能就是能让他们免受伤害的唯一办法。

　　Speak up when you see a wrong being done as silence could be seen as complicit agreement.

　　要是你看见了一些做法不对也一定要说出来，因为那时候保持沉默可能被视为无声许可的同谋。

　　One can view speaking up as the truest act of humanity, since as far as we know, we are the only animals who can do it.

　　有一种观点是，说话是人类最真实的行为，就像我们所清楚的那样，能说话是我们与其他动物的唯一区别。

　　Speak up when you are asked for your opinion as the person doing the asking must value it.

　　当别人做了一件事需要他人给予评价，而你，又是那个需要给出意见的人时，说出你的看法。

　　Finally, speak up when you want to be heard. Whether in the work place or in a relationship, if you believe what you have to say is valuable, don’t be afraid to open your mouth.

　　最后，当你需要倾诉时也请说出来。不管是公事还是私事，只要你认为你所说的是有价值的，不要怯于开口。

　　The ability to speak up takes a level of confidence, but just like all skills, someone only needs to practice in order to get better.

　　能够自信的将话说出的能力，就像其他的技能一样，为了做得更好，人们都要练习。