20多岁对于女性来说是非常美好的年纪。这个阶段你在生活和事业上都可以冒险，而且两者似乎都有着无限可能。但不确定性也可能带来压力、怀疑(奔三的危机)以及对你是否能实现目标或者真正拥有一切的焦虑。还好我们有像Levo League这样的网站，这家网站的负责人蒂法尼·杜芙致力于提供职场建议，并为我们这些年轻一代的女性做指导。在那些你感到沮丧，想要举手投降的时候，看看这些建议。读下去，你会明白一切都会好的。

　　On Constant Worrying

　　关于持续的担忧

　　Dufu says one of the greatest pieces of advice she ever received was about her constant worrying. "My mentor said, &aposIf you would spend less time worrying about choices you don&apost have and actually creating those choices, you would be better off.&apos You know that dynamic of worrying about moving to a new city when you haven&apost even applied to the job? Take that energy and instead apply it to the job application or interview."

　　杜芙说她得到的最宝贵的建议之一是关于她持续的担忧。“我的导师说，‘如果你少花点时间担忧那些没有的选择，而去创造出一些选择，你就会感觉好很多。’你甚至还没有开始申请新工作就在为搬去一个新城市担忧吗?把这个精力花在申请工作或者准备面试上吧。”

　　On the Quarter-Life Crisis

　　关于奔三危机

　　There might be no getting around the dreaded quarter-life crisis, but Dufu says connecting with people who are going through, or have already gone through, the same thing is crucial. "You need someone to tell you you&aposre not going crazy, people who have already been there, done that — who know it&aposs going to be OK and can help you achieve clarity through guidance and encouragement."she says.

　　也许你没有办法逃避可怕的奔三危机，但杜芙说和那些正在经历或者已经经历过奔三危机的人交流一下，这也很重要。“你需要有人告诉你，你不会疯掉。那些已经经历过的人知道，一切都会好的，而且可以帮助你在指引和鼓励中明确自我。”

　　On Wanting to Have It All

　　关于想要拥有一切的欲望

　　A woman can have it all in the traditional sense, says Dufu, who herself has a marriage, job, two kids, and a healthy lifestyle. But, she says, she sacrifices other things — like attending events — to do so. The question shouldn&apost be, "Can you have it all?" but rather, "Can you have what&aposs important to you?" she says. "The answer is yes if you can prioritize and not try to live by someone else&aposs expectations. Because every woman has a list of things she feels like she&aposs supposed to be doing, and some people manage it by creating more time in the day for themselves or by shortening that list to certain core things."

　　杜芙说，在传统意义上说，女人可以拥有一切。她自己就拥有婚姻、工作、两个孩子，还有健康的生活方式。但是她说自己为了拥有这些而牺牲了其他事情，比如出席活动。她说，问题不应该是“你能拥有一切吗?”，而应该是“你能拥有对你来说重要的东西吗?”“答案是肯定的，如果你能把事情按优先顺序排列，并且不要按他人的期待来生活。因为每个女人都有一个列表，上面是她认为应该做的事，有的人争取更多时间来做这些事，而有的人则把这个列表缩短，只保留那些核心的事情。”

　　On Surrounding Yourself With Other Women

　　关于处理和其他女孩的关系

　　You may not have said, "You go, girl," since the eighth grade, but Dufu makes a strong case for bringing back the phrase. "We are susceptible to what our peers say, and what they tell us can be the difference between applying for a job or not," she says. "Sometimes you need a woman saying, &aposGirl, you need to go for that,&apos because encouragement and a community of trust is really important. We think we have to do things by ourselves, but the truth is your advancement is a team sport, and you have to have people supporting you."

　　从八年级开始你应该就不会说“加油吧，姑娘”，但杜芙强烈建议大家重新用上这句话。“我们很容易受同伴话语的影响，她们对我们所说的话可能会影响到你是否去申请一份职位，”杜芙说。“有时候你需要有个女孩告诉你，‘姑娘，你应该去争取，’因为鼓励和群体的信任确实非常重要。我们觉得自己必须亲自做一些事情，但事实是你的进步是团队合作的结果，你必须要有一些人支持你。”

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